Sunday, 18 January 2009 15:01
A risky behavior we exhibit after being laid off is to become your computer's best friend, closeting ourselves away at home sucking down coffee, rewriting the resume for the umpteenth time, surfing every possible job site and generally becoming a hermit.
I think there are 2 reasons for this behavior.
One, clearly we have to find a job to pay the bills. No question there, but its not a 24 hour activity. One needs to put structure and organization into a job hunt. More on that in a later post.
Two, we are embarrassed and self conscious about being laid off. We link our sense of self worth so much to our paying job that when we lose it we can easily become depressed and show avoidance behavior. I found out the hard way that one needs to keep in contact with friends, make new ones. Get out and socialize. This might seem obvious but we do need to be reminded that we are social beings and need to socialize to maintain our overall health. The silver lining on the current economic situation is that little stigma is going to be attached to being out of work AND staying out of work for a while. We have lots of friends in the same situation. You might even find that many of your working friends are almost as scared as you are. They are probably only a paycheck or two away from joining you. In addition get out there and be with people. Spend $4 on that soy latte. Don't feel guilty about it. Consider the cafe as a networking opportunity. Hey it might even be tax deductible. A case in point I was supping on a mocha the other day tapping at the laptop and I got into a chat with someone next to me. They were in the same situation as me. The net of it was at least I made a new friend, we compared notes and commiserated to some extent. Quite therapeutic really. BUT, I made a new business contact with a possibility to do some short term consulting. Cash is good right? AND who knows where that leads. Degrees of separation and all that. I make it a point if I need to surf, write, whatever, to go to my fave cafe, or find a new one. In fact this has become so normal for me I feel guilty writing this at home.
Of course there are lots of other ways to socialize. Just get out there with other people. Who knows what might happen Someone might even have that perfect job for you.
The conclusion to me is more important than undertaking an arduous and stressful job search is to take care of yourself mentally. Socialize, stay connected with people, always maintain an upbeat attitude. Its great training for those interviews to come as well.